Are you resilient?
How resilient are you?
I have a rescue dog who is very calm, until she meets other dogs. The other day, we went out for a walk and she had a fight with another big dog. My instant thought was- she’ll have to go back to the kennels, I’m never going to be able to take her out for walks and why did I get her in the 1st place!! I felt depressed and under the control of her behaviour. The thought that I had that was more helpful was to find a trainer to socialise her more and make walking a joy?? Since then, she has behaved and we expect to enjoy our walks.
Similar things used to happen in practice meetings in the surgery (not the fights) and I used to have a gin before going. I expected things to go wrong and blamed other people! But then I took control of my thoughts and therefore my behaviours and put on a smile. The meetings were much more pleasant as a result and I only had a gin after the meeting!!
I have become much more resilient since my NLP coaching training and help others to become more resilient and take control of their lives
Any change will cause a certain amount of turbulence and this will test our personal resilience. Two of the most important items that relate to personal resilience are 1) a positive attitude and 2) the ability to make a difference and to take control of events.
In this blog, I have given you a questionnaire about whether you are at Cause or Effect in other words- where is your locus of control? You may already know what the answer is and this will help you to clarify it and take action if you think it is necessary.